Fluff-Bunnies and the Totem-Pole

A Fluff BunnyAn interesting post from the Blue Camellia Club

I wonder if anyone else has encountered the term “fluff bunnies”. It seems to be gaining popularity in certain Tellurian quarters. From what I gather, it can be defined as follows:

“Fluff-bunny” is a term used by Tellurians who hold views that are considered odd by other Tellurians. They use it to designate Tellurians (usually broadly of their own camp) who hold views that they consider to be even odder than their own. It is sometimes a term of quite serious abuse, because the people with the “odd” opinions believe that “fluff bunnies” may harm their supposed credibility in the eyes of “normal” Tellurians.

A curious phenomenon, you will agree. I have heard it used by “mainstream” Otherkin against Otakukin. It is also used by “pagans” against “feminist spirituality” types, whom they see as “fluff-bunnies who believe in a made-up matriarchal Golden Age and fulminate against the Evil Patriarchy” (a rough quotation from a site I saw recently). Such fluff-bunnies, it is feared, may damage the good name and common-sense reputation of “paganism”.

This term interested me. Of the two communities I have seen using it – “pagans” and Otherkin – what do they have in common?

The most obvious thing lies in their chosen names. Pagan (as Miss Madonna pointed out to me) was a term used by Christians to mean “people who are not Christian”. Otherkin define themselves as being “other” than normal human Tellurians. They both define themselves by what they are not rather than by what they are.

The identity of both groups is clearly rooted in what they are not. And that is “normal” late-West-Tellurian society. Their whole self-definition revolves around this L-W-T “normality”. They define themselves by being (or at least thinking themselves to be) different from it; and they condemn others for being too different from it. Everything is a dance around it. It is the totem-pole at the centre of all their cavortings.

To an Aristasian this all seems rather peculiar. To us, L-W-T “normality” seems anything but normal. Ideas like evolutionism, equality and rationalism seem quite as cranky as Odinism, flat-earthism and the belief that God came down in a space-ship.

To an Aristasian the idea that people who hold the first set of beliefs should have the moral authority to laugh at people who hold the second is in itself laughable. And indeed they do not really have that moral authority, which is why so many wild and zany “alternatives” proliferate in the Pit.

Nonetheless, the believers in said alternatives seem anxious to return moral authority to L-W-T “normalism”: on the one hand declaring their opposition to it; on the other hand attempting to corral those who stray too far from it with terms like fluff-bunny. Why? Because they themselves lack moral authority as much as the Pit itself. In fact (in their own eyes) more so, because they lack even the pseudo-authority given by numbers. Their eyes are always on the totem-pole.

One result of this is that while these “differentist” movements spring up vaunting their difference from the Pit, they seem quickly to develop a “surburbanising” wing, whose purpose becomes the claim that they are really fully-functional Pit-Cits who look and think just like everyone else (which was often rather too true from the beginning); and who wish to suppress their own “fluff-bunny” element as being too different. No doubt there will be further revolts against the suburbanisers, and the fluff-bunnies may think of a useful name for them. Mud-mice, perhaps. But it is all a dance in and out, forwards and backwards, around the same totem-pole.

This interests me and seems relevant because Aristasians have – at least to superficial appearances – certain things in common with these groups. Many of us believe we are Exiles – that we are essentially intemorphs in a human incarnation, and while ancient Tellurian matriarchy is not of huge interest to us, we do believe in a feminine world and a feminine divinity, and most of us believe in a more feminine pre-patriarchal period in Telluria too (see The Myth of the Myth of Matriarchy for a Deanic refutation of the “Matriarchy is a Myth” school).

The difference is (well there are man differences, but the one I want to point out here is) that Aristasians define themselves by what they are not by what they aren’t. Late-West-Telluria is not their totem-pole and point-of-reference. Credibility in the eyes of the Pit’s standards of “normality” is not something we crave, firstly because we do not find it credible, and secondly because we have our own standards of moral authority and reality-judgement that are based in eternal values.

This is the difference between a traditional culture and a “modernist” one. The “modernist” or “rationalist”, culture bases its standards of judgement on empiricism, which can give differing results and is never absolute. Consequently, it is bound to give rise to continual differences of opinion. These differences are only really settled by who has the most money and power and can corral the most minds into its camp.

A traditional culture, on the other hand, judges by eternal standards of verity that are uninfluenced by the vagaries of the world of flux and change.

In the end, the soberest leaders of Pit “normality” and the fluffiest of fluff-bunnies have far more in common with each other than either has with us.


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  1. i thought fluffbunnies were super squish flowers and rainbow kin types, like “the motherly healing angel” and “the lapdog puppy” type of people?

  2. I’ve never heard the term “fluff bunny”, but a “fluffy bunny” is a person with New Age beliefs that are filtered through rose colored glasses. In other words, they believe that there is no capacity for evil, darkness or anything unpleasant within the world of the supernatural, only within humans themselves.

  3. This post reminded me of another blog post on a related topic I came across recently: http://www.postmodernbarney.com/2007/09/it-doesnt-matter-what-they-think.html

    It’s not just the pagan/otherkin communities that have the problem.

  4. Ran across this while at work, I’ve heard the term but never in a… derogatory way (Not sure if I used that in the right context, I’m kinda tired and not the best at using big words like “a” and “i” lol)

  5. Rayati!
    Thank you for this wonderful article.
    I think you might be a bit unfair in one point though, when saying that Otherkin define themselves by what they are not. Otherkin is a generic term. A specific Otherkin – be she elf or dragon or what-not – will define herself by what she is, and not by what she is not, just like Aristasians do. The same applies to Pagans.
    Kind regards,
    Miss Laraway

  6. Fluffsters, fluffy bunnies, or fluff bunnies are people who like to believe in things more than believing itself.
    They want their world to be better, they want themselves to be better, than the ones not like them.
    They want magic, they want love, and, above all, they want no responsibility whatsoever in attaining or spreading it.

    Fluffsters are the people who claim to be able to do powerful magic, yet, when you dare them, they will probably tell you their magtic is too powerful, and therefor dangerous. Fluffsters will tell you about their past lives in other worlds or dimensions, and they will generally have lead great lives, of powerful people. Fluffsters will tell you they are better then all those people around you, and, when they get the chance, they will tell you that you are júst like them, if only you’d awaken to your inner powers.

    Most importantly, fluffballs will throw all sorts of fancy terminology at you, and all kinds of ‘facts,’ without ever being able to really back up their claims, or even be reasonable about them. Reasoning is not what a fluffball does.

    Dianic wiccans are often considered fluffballs, because they claim to be better than men, they claim to be naturally dominant over the other sex, and they throw away half of their religion because that half has male bits. They claim all sorts of things about Female Godess dominance, while any kind of gender dominance is, in fact, relatively new to our species, and proof of such a goddess is hard to find. (Only one small island in Greece, which eventually died out because of inbreeding, since too little males were left alive.) These people create ‘facts,’ and are sexistic, because it allows them a group, contact with likeminded people, and, above all, grants them superiority.

    Otherkin fluffsters, or wishkin, rather, are people who really want to be special. Otherkin meants something along the line of ‘Different, but the same.’ Wishkin pretend to be just plain different. Or really wánt to be really different, in any case.
    Among the wishkin are the fluffsters. These are the people who were, in their past life, elven royalty, fearie princesses, lords of darkness, archangels, and sometimes even fictional characters, created by the mind of some author or film-maker.
    Typical things about wishkin fluffsters is: They will have been a hero, or really influential person, in their last life, and they believe they need to carry on that life, or part of it, in this one.

    You see; there’s a good reason for both pagans and otherkin to be aware of fluff, and on their guard. Fluff does, indeed, damage their reputation, and may grant an entire subculture or group the label of fascists. (Wishkin fluffsters are nearly all human-haters, while most pagan fluffsters hate men, or think them lowly.)

    I hope to have been of some help, here.

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  8. Because I genuinely believed in the concept that all people are capable of redemption (many simply refuse to seek it) and emphasised kindness, love and compassion over being rude, cruel or violent…
    well, that was why I was labeled a “fluffy bunny”.
    I find that there were segments of the Otherkin community that were terribly mean and rude. However, the dearest friends I made within the group with the kindest and most loving hearts were also on the receiving end of such rudeness and were labeled “fluffy bunnies”.
    I do not deny evil exists; I simply believe that it exists largely because few care to do anything about it. If this causes me to be a “Fluffy Bunny” then so be it.

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